Love is forever, until it ends. When it ends, especially in high school, it seems as if your world has just shattered and your left broken with no idea how to pick up the pieces. How can something that seems so superficial have the ability to cause so much hurt? After all, love can basically be broken down into a chemical reaction, right? Everyone thinks they understand love yet no one can fully define or explain it in a way that makes sense to everyone else. It is the most complex emotion, and it is a path to an infinite number of outcomes. Although we think we know what it really is, love is a concept that is outside human understanding. Love drives people to do crazy things; it's not entirely logical, but we still continue to seek it.
It seems that more people are hurt by relationships than benefit from them. There are of course the lucky few that find their perfect match but everyone has had their heart broken at least once. Since we are continuously looking for love, we put ourselves in imperfect relationships that result in a deeper emotional pain.
Should we allow ourselves to gamble in love when the odds appear to be against us? I believe that the answer will always be yes. The reward of finding true love outways the risk.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Saturday, November 12, 2011
Why do we date?
Recently, I created a poll and had my classmates answer the question 'why do you date?'. The outcome was not surprising, most of the students said they dated for socialization and fun. The other popular choices were 'to get layed' and 'to prepare for marriage'. As I predicted, the 'to get layed' answer was chosen by all male and the 'to prepare for marriage' was mostly girl with the exception of a few boys. The outcome of this poll made me wonder 'does our view of relationships change as we become older? Or is it always consistent?'. At first I thought, sure it does but then I took into account of the 40 year old man who still to this day is considered a 'player'. So some people never change, but then again this is not very common.
As I become older, I start to realize that I do not want to mess around anymore. I am looking for someone who will be my life partner. But does this mind set differentiate between sexes? You would like to think no but the reality is that the majority of guys between the ages of 15-25 are plainly looking for sex.
As I grow deeper in my blog I start to realize that maybe were moving to fast to become older and to have relationships. But young adults are still trying to figure out who they are , and how could we give someone our other half when we haven't even figured out who exactly we are?
As I become older, I start to realize that I do not want to mess around anymore. I am looking for someone who will be my life partner. But does this mind set differentiate between sexes? You would like to think no but the reality is that the majority of guys between the ages of 15-25 are plainly looking for sex.
As I grow deeper in my blog I start to realize that maybe were moving to fast to become older and to have relationships. But young adults are still trying to figure out who they are , and how could we give someone our other half when we haven't even figured out who exactly we are?
Sunday, October 23, 2011
21st Century Love
Is it just me, or does it feel like relationships just don't happen organically anymore? We would certainly like to think so! It seems that movies and television about love portray the perfect relationships. In movies, the man and the woman always meet in the most original ways, fall in love, have a misunderstanding, break-up, and then eventually find there way back to eachother where they live happily ever after. But in reality, this fairy tale meet doesn't happen that often.
Our nation is filled with independent people. Once upon a time, marriages and relationships were found in high school or in college. Now, starting out life is so important that we have pushed relationships further..and further...and further. Now, it isn't strange if a woman doesn't get married until she is 35 years old. With the internet expanding and the accessibility to relationships found there, it is known that 1 in 4 relationships are now found online. According to DatingSitesReviews.com, married couples who met online have an average courtship period of 18.5 months. Married couples who met offline courtship period last on average 42 months. So this brought me to the question, "If Dating sites usually end in failure, then why is that 30% of Americans have or are using online dating?"
Well, that brings me back to the woman not getting married until she is 35. The internet brings a fast easy way to meet people without actually having to 'go out'. Internet dating is where you forget about the saying 'opposites attract' and you find the person who's perfectly compatible with you. But are they really, if the majority of the marriages online end up in divorce? Are we loosing our ability to organically meet a person? In the end, were all searching for the perfect man/woman. Should it really matter how we find them?
Our nation is filled with independent people. Once upon a time, marriages and relationships were found in high school or in college. Now, starting out life is so important that we have pushed relationships further..and further...and further. Now, it isn't strange if a woman doesn't get married until she is 35 years old. With the internet expanding and the accessibility to relationships found there, it is known that 1 in 4 relationships are now found online. According to DatingSitesReviews.com, married couples who met online have an average courtship period of 18.5 months. Married couples who met offline courtship period last on average 42 months. So this brought me to the question, "If Dating sites usually end in failure, then why is that 30% of Americans have or are using online dating?"
Well, that brings me back to the woman not getting married until she is 35. The internet brings a fast easy way to meet people without actually having to 'go out'. Internet dating is where you forget about the saying 'opposites attract' and you find the person who's perfectly compatible with you. But are they really, if the majority of the marriages online end up in divorce? Are we loosing our ability to organically meet a person? In the end, were all searching for the perfect man/woman. Should it really matter how we find them?
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Relationships Backround
Why are we so fascinated with love? Is it that we really want love, or are we so in love with the idea itself? Either or, we all strive for one thing, to be loved. Some may want to study business, while others hate work. Some may want to plan, while others are living day to day. Some may want to change the world, while others wouldn’t care. But we all desire to be loved.
We all dream of the man who will sweep us off our feet and carry us into the sunset. But does this even happen? Love has been around since the dawn of time, you would think that we would have it all figured out. It just happens to be the one aspect of life that cannot be solved. Throughout this process, my goal is to find a deeper understanding of love. How has it changed over the course of many years, is our media having a greater effect on our generation than we are thinking? Love now has a different meaning than it did in say, the 1920’s or the 1960’s but we are a rapidly growing world and things are going to change. But are they good?
As I grow older, my perspective of love changes. This is only natural. In elementary school, I loved any boy who gave the slightest interest in me. In middle school, a relationship meant popularity and the essence of being ‘mature’. Now I am in high school, the world of drama and relationships. Most teenagers think they know what love is but the truth is, I don’t think we have the slightest clue. However there are the lucky ones. The lucky high school couple who run off and live happily ever after. But the truth is, that only happens to 2% of high school couples.
So why do we do it? Is it for security, or is it simply because our influences, such as friends. Whatever the reason is, we cannot stop searching for love. But love is not impossible to find. It often occurs when we have met requirements within ourselves. Why some people struggle to find love is because they have not first loved there self. How can we give someone our other half if we don’t even know who we are yet? You would struggle to add anything to one another. Maybe that’s why my generation is so confused. We are told that relationships are good and secure so we rush into love. We force ourselves to love before we even know what it means. Sometimes we just need to breath and slow down. But how do we? Were to busy searching.
We all dream of the man who will sweep us off our feet and carry us into the sunset. But does this even happen? Love has been around since the dawn of time, you would think that we would have it all figured out. It just happens to be the one aspect of life that cannot be solved. Throughout this process, my goal is to find a deeper understanding of love. How has it changed over the course of many years, is our media having a greater effect on our generation than we are thinking? Love now has a different meaning than it did in say, the 1920’s or the 1960’s but we are a rapidly growing world and things are going to change. But are they good?
As I grow older, my perspective of love changes. This is only natural. In elementary school, I loved any boy who gave the slightest interest in me. In middle school, a relationship meant popularity and the essence of being ‘mature’. Now I am in high school, the world of drama and relationships. Most teenagers think they know what love is but the truth is, I don’t think we have the slightest clue. However there are the lucky ones. The lucky high school couple who run off and live happily ever after. But the truth is, that only happens to 2% of high school couples.
So why do we do it? Is it for security, or is it simply because our influences, such as friends. Whatever the reason is, we cannot stop searching for love. But love is not impossible to find. It often occurs when we have met requirements within ourselves. Why some people struggle to find love is because they have not first loved there self. How can we give someone our other half if we don’t even know who we are yet? You would struggle to add anything to one another. Maybe that’s why my generation is so confused. We are told that relationships are good and secure so we rush into love. We force ourselves to love before we even know what it means. Sometimes we just need to breath and slow down. But how do we? Were to busy searching.
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